| Blushing |
| Hey guys, nice to find this board. This all started when I was about 10. I was on a school trip and really fancied a girl. I made a remark to my friend and he told her that I fancied her. I felt my cheeks burn and everyone started laughing. All through secondary school this continued. While people where going out and having fun, and learning crucial social skills, having relationships, I was stuck in my room. Sure I got by, by avoiding life. Anyway, I am now 24 and deeply unhappy. I have been forced to go part time in a very good job (dealing with the public). Each day I have this immense feeling of emptiness. I also have rosacea which means that when it is warm, when I have a drink etc I will flush. I consider myself to be an ok looking person but this is killing me. I blush in front of work colleagues, my boss, even my family, the thought of being in a relationship scares me...it is a viscous cycle. I would love to speak to people who are going through the same as me as I feel very alone. Please E-Mail me your instant messaging address so we can talk as I prefer the anonymity of instant messaging clients. Please send me your msn or aim/ichat username so I can add you. I have set up an anonymous email to retrain privacy as sometimes Google will cache information it is - imaybein@me.com I look forward to hearing from you and offering support and visa versa. |
| by Ruiningmylife on 23rd-01-10 11:38 |
| on 11th-02-10 05:39, creative cow said: |
| List all the things you fear to do, rank them from the the one you fear least to the ones you fear most. Start doing the things on your list everyday. The idea is to move up your list. Challenge yourself everyday. The temptation is to hide but if you do, you will find yourself at 35 and still fearful Fighting fear is a war not a battle. Don't mind losing a battle but make sure you win the war |
| on 4th-03-10 10:40, TJ said: |
| Hey. What you are describing sounds exactly like my own situation was once. There was a time when I had been blushing etc for a few years and it felt like there was no hope and my life was pretty horrible because of it and sometimes I considered giving up because I felt such despair. Today I had to go to court (as a witness) and stand and be questioned for 2 hours in front of about 20 people. Just a couple of years ago I would probably have been worrying about this for months and being violently ill but, by doing what the above poster says, it was easy and i got over my anxiety. Challenge yourself (even if its just a tiny tiny step), be easy on yourself if you mess up and most importantly don't give up. |