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| I had one of those days today where I was blushing and it really got me down, mainly because it was in front of my boyfriend's family and people that I really care about their opinion of me. I have had this problem since I was about 20 (now im 25) although only in the last 2 years has it has really affected my life. I don't really understand why it started, but it is causing me to have social anxiety... and one thing that gives me comfort is the fact that its a condition that exists out there and I'm not the only one having these fears or feelings of anxiety. The close people in my life have seen me blush horribly and yet they still talk to me and treat me like normal. Sometimes what helps me is to remind myself, after I blush, not to beat myself up over it. Also, I think everyone we encounter on a daily basis is so caught up in their own lives and insecurities that any bad or awkward thoughts they have of me are fleeting... Maybe we have a conversation where i blush really bad... where I feel it is obvious they noticed and it bothers me the whole day. Will they remember in a month or a year? Probably not, assuming they even really thought about it in the first time. Probably more noticable than the blushing would be the nervous look (deer caught in headlights), or other subtle reactions that we have to our blushing or avoidant behaviors. Anyway, I really thank the person who made this site, just for the positive message and that feeling of hope that I think helps more than any "quick-fix" and believe me I've tried all quick-fixes and as soon as you think they work, they fail you... I guess I'm rambling just because i've had one of those days and came to seek relief on a message board of people who have the same problem ... but also as a reminder to myself and others that every day is a new beginning. So just get out there and talk to the same people and different people and give yourself more chances for positive moments, and I'm sure all of the people we've blushed in front of today (who have their own lives and own personal worries) are not going to be as judgemental of us, as we are of ourselves. |
| by kristen on 4th-06-09 00:28 |
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